Monday, November 24, 2014

Letter from a 21 Day Fixer to her Coach

One of the neat things about this coaching gig is the amazing feeling you get when one of your challengers reaches her goal. I received this email from a challenger this morning and she granted me permission to post verbatim in hopes that her story might resonate with someone out there who is also needing a change: 

"I started to write this down yesterday because I was thinking about why in the world I didn’t feel the need to nap (on that dreary, rainy, lazy Sunday).  And it’s because of you.  Thank you for introducing me to the 21 Day Fix!  You saw a friend in semi dire straits and showed me a new way to think about food, nutrition and exercise which has now become part of my lifestyle (ok, maybe not exercise – but we’re working on that : )).  You are such a good woman – a great friend and I do love you.   Thank you for all that you are.  Here is my testimony that I want to share with you:

Participating in the 21 Days has led to some serious personal reflection on habits and health.  
First, you need to know this about me:
·         For the past ten years, I have been a fast food junkie.  I loved McDonalds and Chick fil A.
·         For as long as I can remember have had an insatiable sweet tooth.  
·         I have never had a problem with weight.  
·         I do not exercise- I don’t like it.  At all. 
My habits caught up with me about 8 months ago; this past spring I went to put on some shorts that I had for years and they were not even close to being able to button.  Something else happened that I had not experienced since I was a pre-teen and that was awful break outs.  My skin was a mess - I was even too embarrassed to go my dermatologist who had always remarked what pretty skin I had. 

The first thing I tried was what I always did and had been successful with when things were “snug” and that was to skip a few meals for a few days.  Nothing happened.  Spring turned into summer and after trying on my bikini I was more than discouraged.  I felt so gross, tired and depressed.  I avoided pool parties.  I tried new facial products which made things worse.  I slept during the day, stayed up late.  I made A LOT excuses.  

Looking back, I had been going through a new type of stress since the fall that lasted until the beginning of summer; usually when work stressed I lose weight but this was so emotional – so new that I believe it manifested in these awful exaggerated eating and sleeping habits which affected my overall wellbeing. Could a #1 at McDonalds make me feel better?  You bet!  Rest when the baby rests – no problem!

One night in August, my friend Tinsley, (who had watched my emotional and physical transformation) mentioned the 21 Day Fix.  I didn’t give it much thought until after I saw one of the photos of us from that evening.  So I took the plunge and signed up the next day.  It’s 21 days – how hard can it be?  What is the worst that can happen?   
My biggest worry was my fondness of fast food which I expressed immediately; Tinsley assured me that she would be there to help work through ALL my cravings – wine, chocolate and fast food.  

There were a few big eye openers immediately: one, the amount of water I should be drinking and two, the frequency of food intake – I have never eaten like that before so that was going to be an adjustment.  The other thing I realized was that (aside from the fast food) I was not eating the wrong things (lean proteins, veggies, fruits) I had just been preparing them in the most fattening ways – lots of salt and butter, deep fried, battered etc.,  and then eating at non-optimal times during the day.

These are some notes I wrote down from the August 21 Days:

After Week 1:  Skin VASTLY improved all clear for the first time in months.  More energy, could not nap. Zero fast food cravings.  Sweet cravings did not go away; found that small pieces of dark chocolate worked well.  I found water to wake me up more and faster than coffee.    Hurting, a lot, from the exercise; I love Kat!!   Enjoyed paying attention to and preparing what I was feeding myself and my family.

After Week 2: Noticeable physical changes, clothes fit differently but did not notice a huge difference on the scale.  T encouraged me NOT to weigh myself so I put it away until then end.  Kind of enjoyed the “burn” from exercising (whaa?).  Zero fast food cravings and sweet cravings dissipated.  Energy level great.

21 Day result – 5 pounds and 3 inches off my waist; I could button my shorts but still had a “muffin top”.  No fast food – actually made me sick to think about!  Sweet cravings gone.  Energy level –amazing.  Appreciated the exercise but still not a fan.  Skin back to normal.

I did it!  I made it through the 21 Days.  Was it hard?  The very first day was hard for me.  The exercise was hard for me (remember – I do not do this!).  But the healthy food preparation and portion control came easy.  I was never hungry (except the first day and I do believe it was a mental psych-out – “DIET!”).  That’s not to say I didn’t miss my rich buttery dinners - that 22nd day I ate a “21 day portion” of Beef Stroganoff – not my “prior portion”.  The lesson here for me is, these foods do not need to be daily food items and the amount of what I thought I needed is not the amount I do need.  

It is now the end of November.  I have since lost another 5 pounds just by modifying intake, eating and preparing foods that my body needs and limiting the foods my body wants.  I have found there are foods that while may taste good make me feel horrible hours later – it’s just not worth it.  Also drinking a ton of water – it tastes so good!  My winter clothes fit and most days I’m not worried about covering up my tummy.  But the biggest benefit is how I feel which is pretty amazing in comparison to where I was just a few short months ago.  

And I’m not perfect!  I have mayo sometimes, I don’t drink enough water on the weekends, sometimes I only have three meals instead of six (but 3 is better than 2 or even 1).  Big Confession: I did get a CFA sandwich on Saturday – two bites and I was done - it did not taste as good as I had remembered.  That was the first FF since August – can you believe it?  After 10 years?!    It’s all progress.

Tinsley is determined to find some exercise that I can “enjoy” so will be test driving PiYo. 

I never - in a million years - would have thought that 21 days can lead to some major transformations that actually work and become habits.  And I could not have done it without such an inspiring and supportive “coach” who gently stayed on me, checked in without nagging, inspired without bragging, and encouraged me daily – all with a smile on her face and in her heart.

<3 ya girl!"

Thanks for sharing, Amy. You are the best and I am so very proud of you. Love you back!!!

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